Bride's Survival Guide - Working With Bridesmaids And Groomsmen

Ashley Rader

Ashley Rader is the owner of Moments of Elegance, an online wedding boutique specializing in beach wedding favors, summer wedding favors and a huge collection of unique wedding favor ideas that will say thank you with style and will truly make your event unforgettable.

The bridesmaids and the maid of honor are key players in your wedding that is why you pay them special attention. We would like to offer you some tips with working bridesmaids and the maid of honor. Your selected group of women is normally friends and family. You know their preferences and know how to make it work. Never the less there can still be tensions as the big day approaches and your expectations of them may change. Try your best to keep everyone at ease. Help with decision making so that the wedding will run smoothly.

Getting Ready/Pre-Ceremony

A few good tips with working with the bridesmaids and maid of honor will help you to maintain a well-planned wedding. The bridesmaids and the maid of honor should be included in decision making such as your floral arrangements or clothing. Their perspective on colors may help you to finalize things more quickly. The bridesmaids and your maid of honor can even help you select items for your menu for the guests. Many times, they have knowledge from previous weddings or perhaps just planning things on their own might be of use. It is not a surprise that sometimes friends and family are more in tuned with what you really want than a wedding planner who possibly hasn't a clue about your likes and dislikes only about format and style.

A wedding planner is still a good person to have so that things properly are completed and so that you don't drive your bridesmaids crazy. Remember your bridesmaids should stay your friend's after your day is over. The use of both the wedding planner and the bridesmaids and maid of honor can be very helpful. Make the event as pleasant as possible when going out to select have coffee afterwards or an ice cream. The day of the wedding set up a hair appointment, nails, and make up at your favorite boutique for everyone. Normally the boutique owner will add coffee and tea for your guests. This makes the event even more meaningful.

The bridesmaids and maid of honor may seem easy to please since you have always known them and had fun together before. Now you are thinking I need some tips with working with the groomsmen. Normally about the only thing you need to do is to make sure that they go to the Tuxedo Shop in plenty of time to get the proper fitting clothes. You might be surprised to know that the groomsmen have a tendency to take over matters themselves. Usually the groomsmen are the best friend of the groom and know him very well. The groomsmen usually plan and execute a bachelor party. The groom will inform the groomsmen where to go for their tuxedo and they usually go on their own time. The night of practice, a dinner normally follows afterwards and this is the time to present special presents to both the bridesmaid and groomsmen. Taking care of the groomsmen you will find is not nearly as hard as the bridesmaids because the girls need more things to make a beautiful wedding than does the men.

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  • Wice says
    Do I detect a US influence once again in this article? I would be far more interested in reading about organising a wedding in New Zealand. After all, how many Chelsey readers would even consider using a wedding planner? As for rehearsal dinners, I've certainly never been to one although I have been part of a wedding party on several occasions. Even the advice about including your bridesmaids in choosing the menu and the flowers seems a little foreign. These things are normally done by the bride and groom and their parents (especially Mums) – those who normally pay for this part of the wedding. is so much information about weddings that would be more relevant to Chelsey readers. Please, can we have more local content if possible.
    • why would you do that says
      I completely agree with you Wice!
    • flowery3 says
      This kind of fancy palaver puts me off the whole formal wedding thing, want to cut it down to just me and my man, before god, and maybe a few friends...the marriage is more important than the wedding which can turn into an out of control jugganaut...!
    • Zoe says
      There is definatly an element of truth in considering advice of the bridesmads though. I'm a bridesmaid in February and there has been a bit of tention over outfits and money from all of the bridesmaids because of lack of communication.
    • sheree says
      My fiance and I are getting Married in December under 2 months to go and one of my closest friends and Bridesmaids has quit. Not only is this upsetting but also inconvenient, that aside she and her partner have still suggested they would like to attend the wedding?? help!

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