Discussing :: Is it "bad" to want space and what does space mean?

#1

Is it "bad" to want space and what does space mean?

I love my husband and I love my kids (in a totally different and heartfelt way to anything else), I love my friends and I love my parents, I also love my life. BUT where am I? Sometimes I get vertigo and I miss that ruthless individual I used to be before all these commitments. Do I just miss this yesteryear me because she is snatched away so often from under my nose.....

#2

It's always good to have some time to yourself...

#3

No you need your own space to clear you head. I love going for walks and I feel great afterwards

#4

Everyone needs time to sort out what is going on with them Its not a bad thing

#5

i think i know what you mean. but we all move forward and what we were yesterday is not anymore we now because of the path we chose to take. i miss the old me too because of all the good things that surrounded me -- career, socials, freedom, etc -- Love the now and you'll create a new chapter in your life that is far better than the 1st one. Good luck!

#6

No not at all, we all need some space. I think everyone needs a bit of "me" time doing something relaxing and something for themselves even if it's little things like taking a long bath with aromatics candles, a new haircut or a massage, a quiet coffee by your window, listening to your favourite music, or taking some time off to read a book or magazine that you love, going for a walk or pursuing a hobby you have always wanted to do. It could be something big or small, but anything you love to do, that gets you going and helps recharge your batteries. I know it's really hard not to feel guilty when you take some time out for yourself, but a happier you means a happier mom, daughter and wife. I think doing so, will also give you some much needed space and time to yourself. Also, sometimes I have found when I look back at my former life, it seems more rosy than it actually was. I guess the grass is always greener on the other side :)

#7

No it's not bad to want space!!! I was a single mum for 5 years and loved my independence and then all of a sudden once my fiancee and I moved in together and basically took over everything and left me feel a little worthless and with no independence to do what I wanted anymore....until I explained the situation and how hard the change was - having our own lives as well as one together is so so important!!

#8

No it's not bad to want space, I need it regularly to clear my head and thoughts, then I'm a much nicer person to be around, otherwise I get grumpy and short with all those I love around me, so space for me is a good thing, sometimes it could be a walk, or something crafty as long as I'm by myself at the time, usually 2-3 times per week for bout an hour each time is enough to charge my batteries.

#9

Its not bad to want space, every body needs time on thier own once in a while to focus on themselves and just relax and take a break from family and everybody else

#10

I grew up as an only child so am used to time alone... i also work with 50-80 children and all the parents to go with it every day so i find i do need time out just for me, even if its just half an hour of peace before my fiancee comes home for the day ~ i find it makes me appreciate him and the time spent with him when i get time to myself to ~ it all comes down to balance i think :)

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