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I guess I’m not very good at this; in response, I’ll try again flowery3…
Not slavery, a mother’s love for her child is an absolutely incredible, wonderful gift. It’s total, unselfish, undemanding love. It can’t be measured. It's certainly not something you decide to do or not! You are not forced to love your children. No one makes you - often least of all, them! For the lucky majority, the love simply exists.
I’m afraid I couldn’t imagine a world where children were loved by their parents only if they did well, if they always had to prove themselves in order to earn love. What would a baby or toddler have to do? Imagine what sort of society we would live in.
All children need to feel loved, no matter what they are like or what they do. What’s more, it may start as a survival instinct but it’s through being loved that children learn to love. Sadly, those unfortunate children who are not loved, are more likely to be those we read about who end up in Starship Hospital or as juvenile offenders.
I’m not saying for an instant that there are not other kinds of love as well - couples, families and kids wouldn’t exist otherwise. Romantic, platonic, spiritual love - none of these other relationships are based simply on a genetic connection. You may have a love of nature, of the earth, of mankind – but it is usually only the extremist or soldier who would be prepared to lay down their lives, as a mother would for her child, for these loves.
I may be misunderstanding what you are saying, but the love you are talking about doesn’t’ seem like love at all to me. I’m not sure what it is. Love is an emotion. If you have to choose it, it is coming from the head, not come from the heart. It has no emotional basis. It is merely a calculated decision based on give and take . If you can find something , or enough about someone to please you, then you will give them your ‘love’. Maybe this love is kindness, friendship, affection, compatibility – but I can’t agree with you that it is love if you have to think about it before choose to give it.
So back to the love ‘that makes the world go around’. A woman meets a man. She notes that he is kind and handsome… “I will choose to love this man” she decides. Then he kicks a dog. “No, I will choose not to love this man” she decides. The scenario may take a day or a decade to play but it’s still not love if it involves conscious decision making.
As for a mother’s love for her child, maybe it is something that you need to experience to comprehend - like joy or pain. You might see millions of instances of it all over the world, but if you haven’t felt it yourself, well maybe it’s just too hard to believe in magic!
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