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How much time do you spend with your significant other?

...was asked this question but am curious to hear what others have to say if they were asked....

..do you make time for each other, not enough, too much, just see what happens...is it quality time etc....

...What are your thoughts on this topic?



I believe everyone is different and the time one's spends with one's partner varies over the time you are together - days, weeks, months, years. I think there is an equilibrium when people 'click' and the longer you are together, the more settled this becomes - or maybe it's just that your expectations are dulled :-)

I know of people who after years of marriage still do everything together , and others who meet only for meals, a bit of TV, sleep and holidays . I don't think the relationships are any better or worse in either case - just individually suited to the different couples.

I guess there are pros and cons either way. Co-dependancy could be stifling and difficult when one partner can't be there for whatever reason. Still having a soulmate who shares your life totally might be very rewarding as well. On the other hand, independence lets you grow as an individual and though it might be lonely, a least the partners know they can cope and have a life alone if the need arose.

I don't think there are any rules. Sometimes I love having hubbie around or going out with him; other times I love time to myself and wish he would get out of my way! We have our own balance which fluctuates depending on all sorts or external factors.

There may be a danger in comparing time together with others' time together if you are happy in your relationship. I'd just let it ride rather than question the status quo and possibly create unrealistic expectations based on other people's experiences. Whatever works for you is the right amount!



We spend to much time we own a business togeither so we are togeither pretty much all the time working 6 days a week so normally when we get home one watchs telly the other the computer then vice versa



We are so busy looking after our 3 kids all under 6 years, that we don't have much time for each other. Any suggestions?


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Yes well i also believe what works for one couple may not for another, whatever makes your relationship good, we spend most of our time together and have for some years now,we don't really pursue a lot of outside interests or friends, and we are really happy this way,the time spent together has to be quality time, even though we have a lot of time together it is always i feel quality time,after all with us at work all day, there is only the evenings and weekends and holidays, so really it really is not that much when you think about it,works for us 100 PER CENT.



In between shift work hours l try to make a point of spending one on one time with my partner and girls every day. Yes some days it’s a struggle but l believe it’s well worth the effort and rewarding.
Shift work can give you a lot of time off, so spending quality time with my partner isn’t a real problem. It’s friends that seem to miss out as they are tied to only having weekends off.

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